Have you ever woken up and you could’ve sworn you actually experienced that “falling in love” feeling in your dream? You feel warm, cozy and almost like you’re in a love bubble? Sometimes you can see the object of your affection clearly in your dream and other times it’s just a feeling. You may find yourself having these “love” or “romance” dreams both when you are in a relationship and when you’re single.
I became increasingly curious about them lately so I started to ask others about their experiences. What I immediately found quite surprising is that men tend to have these dreams as often as women do. I think many women are conditioned to believe that men only have those ‘wet dreams’ like they did during puberty. This isn’t the case. One man in his 30’s shared that sometimes the love feeling is so intense when he wakes up that he finds himself thinking of this woman for the next couple days until the dream wears off.
I decided to do a bit more research on this which led to me to Carl Jung’s school of analytical psychology where he spoke of each of us having our male side (animus) and our female side (anima). Jung explained that, because a man’s sensitivity must often be repressed, the anima is one of the most significant emotions of all. It often manifests itself by appearing in dreams and can be the source of men’s creativity. Jung goes on to explain that males fall in love with women who embody the qualities of their “anima”. The yearning for men to fall in love is to connect with their anima psychologically. That romantic, mysterious feeling is between you and your hidden psyche, which is feminine if you are male. When we have a crush on someone we fall in love with the idea of that person. That is the anima. There is magic in it.
Dreams about love can cause feelings of growth and calm in the dreamer. Dreams have the ability to color our mood and emotions for days to come which is why when you have a good and happy dream, you often feel that way for the rest of the day.
Oh, and by the way, many experts ask you not to get too caught up in the meaning behind the object of affection in your dream (in case it makes you feel uncomfortable when you dream of a co-worker, neighbor or even someone else while you are in a relationship), it is more about the feeling you have and whether you feel expansive and relaxed.
That is your connection to love.
I’d love to hear from you and your “love” dream experiences. Please feel free to share in the comments below.
Sweet Dreams & Live Love,