Could you imagine ever becoming a successful athlete, entrepreneur, artist or anything for that matter, if deep down, you didn’t feel competent or worthy? Could you imagine if someone told you that if you did ever become successful, you would experience great pain and punishing consequences as a result? Imagine how that would affect your chances! This is what happens when our subconscious mind holds the belief that we are “not good enough” or that we will be abandoned, lonely, disgraced, etc, if we try to shine. Every day people WANT for things that are incongruent with their beliefs.
These seeds of self-sabotaging beliefs are often hidden deep in our psyche. They are often based on false interpretations formed about ourselves and the world through emotionally charged memories in childhood. These memories are stored in our limbic system which is a part of our brain in charge of protecting us from what it perceives as harmful. Whenever it recognizes something remotely similar to a past threat or pain, it triggers a physical and/or emotional response to keep us away from danger. It can happen throughout our lifetime and we have no idea…until we wake up!
For example, if as a child, you were burned by touching a red hot stove, then, as an adult, you will be very reticent to go near somewhere that feels hot. Similarly if in your past you stood in front of your class to present to a group and someone made fun of you, you may start having anxiety at the very thought of public speaking as an adult.
The more I study and work with the subconscious mind, the more in awe I am of it. According to David Brooks, author of The Social Animal, the human mind can take in 11 million bits of information at any given moment, but the conscious mind can only handle of 40 bits at most. Some experts say that the unconscious mind does virtually all the work and that consciousness may only be an illusion.
As a former chiropractor and now as a success coach, I‘ve helped thousands of people dissolve subconscious beliefs and release blocks. I am convinced that “You don’t create what you want in life, you create what you believe”.
I once had a client who was a beautiful powerful and very capable woman. She was quite successful in her career, according to regular standards, but she wanted more. We used a method called NET (Neuro Emotional Technique) to check for her subconscious beliefs to make sure that she was congruent with the fee she wanted to charge for her services. Low and behold, she was not!
When we dug deeper, we discovered that as a child, her single mom worked two jobs to make ends meet. As a result, she was not on outings with her or at home like her friends’ stay-at-home moms. Because of that she believed her mother did not love her as much as her friends’ moms did and that something had to be wrong with her. She began to feel unworthy. Children compare themselves to others all the time. They judge themselves harshly and erroneously. In this case her mother loved her so much that she worked two jobs to provide for her children. Unfortunately, that is not the belief she grew up with. Buried deep inside her was the belief she was unworthy and so, she could not accept the kind of money she wanted. After eliminating this belief and helping her see how much she had been loved, her sense of worthiness went up right away and she felt capable of charging the amount of money she now felt she deserved… she did deserve a great life after all!
There are three major clues that you have an inner conflict that is in the way of your potential:
1- You know what needs to be done, but you are not doing it; the famous procrastination.
2- You know what needs to be done, you are doing it and it feels like a struggle.
3- You know what you want, you are doing what needs to be done, but you seem to always get the opposite results.
Are any of these familiar? If you interested in living a fulfilling and successful life, I encourage you to find practitioners who work with the subconscious mind and take away the blocks that stand in the way of your full potential.