Over the years, I’ve written a great deal about dirty talk. From general guidelines to hot phrases you can use to rile your lover up, dirty talk is one of my favourite topics to cover…and put into practice.
In several of my workshops (including Steamy Sex for Couples and Rock his/her World) I ask participants to share what they want to hear in bed via secret ballot. Each person writes down a few things they’d like their lover to say in the heat of the moment and we read them aloud as a group without identifying the source.
The following is an unscientific summary of the most popular lines I’ve collected from thousands of workshop participants.
What men want to hear from women:
“I’m coming!” This line comes up multiple times in every workshop without exception.
“Your penis/cock/dick/wiener is so big.” Yes — someone actually wrote “wiener”.
“You make me so wet.” More on this here.
“You’re the best I’ve ever had.” We all have Drake to thank for this one.
“I want to feel you inside of me.” Of course you do!
What women want to hear from men:
“You’re my dirty whore/slut”. Note that you can play with language and roles within the context of a healthy, consensual relationship. Read more here.
“You’re the best I’ve ever had.” Thanks again, Drake.
“You’re so hot.” Damn straight!
“You’re the only one for me. I will only ever want you.”
“I love you so much.” To which we might reply, “Really? Prove it!”
Some of the wilder lines participants have shared via secret ballot:
“Make me come all over your face!”
“Suck it until I cry.”
“I’m going to spank you until you whimper like a mouse.” Clearly, I can’t make this stuff up!
“I want to line 5 guys up and let them taste you one by one.”