What is Female Ejaculation?
Female Ejaculation—also called squirting or gushing—is when a woman emits fluid, or female ejaculate, from her urethra during sexual arousal. Squirting can be the ultimate pleasure for women, especially during orgasm, but can occur without orgasm as well. Like multiple orgasms, women have the potential to squirt multiple times during sexual arousal, or it may only happen once.
Female ejaculate comes from the Skene’s glands and is ejaculated from the ducts in the urethra. The Skene’s glands are located in the G-spot, also known as the female prostate, which hugs the urethra tube. During sexual stimulation of the G-spot, the female prostate fills with fluids and can result in female ejaculation. Stimulation of the G-spot is essential for most women to achieve female ejaculation.
Female ejaculate and urine come from the same area—the urethra—but, female ejaculate is not urine. It is a clear fluid that varies from urine in smell and taste, and contains the same proteins found in the male ejaculate including prostatic fluid, creatinine and glucose.
All women have the sexual anatomy and ability to squirt. All it takes is an open mind, a willingness to explore and a knowledgeable lover.
How to Make Your Lover Achieve Female Ejaculation—A Step by Step Guide
So now you have a brief idea of what female ejaculation is, let’s get started on learning the wondrous art of how to make your partner squirt.
1. Talk About It.
Discuss this with your partner before you begin. Communication is important before exploring female ejaculation. She may feel uncomfortable exploring this, or because of social conditioning believe it is “dirty”. Make sure to alleviate her fears by reading this e-book together.
2. Get Prepared.
Make sure to place a plastic sheet and large towels on the bed before you begin to avoid wetting the sheets.
3. Bathroom Duty.
Your partner should go to the bathroom first to empty her bladder and bowels. This will assure you both that her ejaculate is real and make her more comfortable.
4. Get Her Relaxed.
She may want to take a bath beforehand to relax. Give her an erotic massage to put her in the mood.
5. Take It Slow.
Remember this is an exploration, not a race, so take your time and go slow.
6. Comfortable Positioning.
Get her positioned on her back and comfortable. She may want to prop a pillow under to backside as well. This is the best position for beginners.
7. Lots of Foreplay.
Stimulate her first with lots and lots of foreplay. Arouse her to an intoxicating level so when you are ready to help her ejaculate, she won’t be able to hold it back.
8. The Vulva.
Begin by stimulating her vulva: the clitoris, labia lips and U-spot (the area above the urethra opening that is like an up-side-down U). The U-spot likes to be pleasured with a very wet tongue, much like licking an ice cream cone. Stimulate all around this area as well as her clitoris until she is very sexually aroused.
9. The G-spot.
Next, insert 1 to 2 clean or gloved fingers inside of her vagina (or a G-spot dildo) and begin to stimulate her G-spot. This is a spongy, wrinkled tissue about 2 inches inside the vagina on the frontal wall. Start with soft “come hither” strokes until the G-spot begins to swell with fluid. Continue to stimulate this area, as well as give her oral pleasure on her clitoris, until your partner feels like she has to urinate. This usually happens as the female prostate fills up with fluid.
10. Orgasmic Breathing.
Make sure she breathes. Orgasmic breathing techniques are used in Tantra to expand both male and female orgasms. Deep breathing will encourage her to relax more and let go, as well as heighten all her erotic sensations and allow the sexual energy to flow through her.
11. Rocking Her Hips.
With each breath she can also start rocking or thrusting her hips. This will get her ready for releasing the female ejaculate and also build orgasmic energy.
12. Pumping Her PC Muscle.
She should also begin to squeeze and relax her PC muscle (Pubococcygeus Muscle) in rhythmic pulses. The stronger her PC muscle, the better she will be able to female ejaculate. Practicing kegel exercises on a regular basic will help build up this muscle that forms the pelvic floor and supports all her sexual organs.
13. Firm Pressure.
The G-spot loves deep, firm pressure, so apply firmer thrusts as she desires.
14. Don’t Hold Back.
As her orgasm and ejaculate builds, her initial response may be to try and hold back or clamp down on her ejaculation. This will inhibit her, so encourage her to surrender to her pleasure and orgasm.
15. Bear Down.
When she is ready to ejaculate and orgasm, she should push out with her PC muscle. This helps to expel the female ejaculate from her urethra.
16. Remove Your Fingers.
She may push your fingers out of her vagina with the contractions of her vaginal muscles as she achieves orgasm. This will move your fingers out of the way so they are not blocking the ducts so she can ejaculate. She may squirt a small amount, like a teaspoon, or a large amount, like a cup or more.
17. Don’t Stop.
Don’t stop now, because women can experience multiple and continuous orgasms and squirting during this time. Continue to stimulate her G-spot, if she allows it, so she can achieve multiple orgasms and squirt even more until she is finished.
Congratulations! You have learned the art of female ejaculation. Now all you need to do is practice. Once you become an expert, your partner will crave your erotic touch and will never want or need another lover again.
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By Gabrielle Moore
Gabrielle Moore helps couples around the world improve their sex lives. She communicates daily with her more than 300,000 subscribers. Gabrielle is the author of several best-selling books, such as “The Female Orgasm Revealed“, “Turn Her On Faster“, “Hot Licks“, and many others.