Is it true that a woman can actually learn to experience female ejaculation (squirt)? And if so, should I learn – does it typically feel any better or more intense?
It sure is! Female ejaculation is a natural process that some women love and others loathe. Like male ejaculation, it is a sexual response that may or may not coincide with orgasm. The latest research links “squirting” with the skene’s glands, which are a part of the G-Spot, drain into the urethra and are homologous to the prostate gland in men. Mainstream porn may tout this “spraying” sensation as some sort of a sideshow trick, but in reality, the fluid expelled is usually less than a teaspoon in volume and doesn’t usually squirt across the room like a Super Soaker 2000.
For some women, ejaculation can be intensely pleasurable and evident, while for others their experience may range from discomfort to indifference. It can even go entirely unnoticed during sexual intercourse evidenced only by the annoying wet spot on your side of the bed. Each of these experiences is normal and healthy. Our bodies are unique and just as each person reacts differently to the foods we consume, we also respond uniquely to sexual stimuli and touch. If you want to experiment with ejaculation, try it on your own first to help reduce the pressure of performance and embrace your own reaction without focusing on any particular goal:
• Get yourself all riled up in a manner that is familiar and effective.
• Sit back against the headboard with your legs bent and your feet flat on the mattress.
• Curl a finger into your vagina and pull up toward the wall of your stomach. Press into the upper wall as you feel the tissue begin to swell.
• As you become more aroused, continue to curl your finger on the inside while you press down on your bladder through the outside of your stomach. This dual stimulation provides a light squeezing sensation against the G-Spot by internal and external means.
• If you feel as though your muscles are inclined to bear down or push out as though you’re forcing air out of your vagina, exaggerate the feeling and release your pelvic floor muscles.
• Breathe deeply and increase the pressure against your G-Spot from both sides.
• Embrace your body’s reactions and don’t focus on ejaculating. If it happens, that’s great! And if not, bring yourself to orgasm however you fancy.
Much of the above information has been excerpted from my latest book, The New Sex Bible.
I grew up in a religious home where we never spoke of sex except that my father told me that masturbation was a no-no. I know better now, but is there such a thing as “over doing” it?
If masturbating is interfering with your daily life (e.g. ability to complete work tasks, maintain friendships and cultivate intimate relationships), then you might be over doing it. Otherwise, lie back and enjoy the ride and its many benefits.
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